what do i do? plz help?!?!?!!!!!!!?

Question

i currently live in a place i love very much i.e Canada and my parents are planning to go back where we came from i.e india, but i dont want to go there, i would love to visit but not go there 4ever as my parents are planning(its fixed though!) i like this place 100 times better than there, not that its bad or something but just its that i like it here and its the only place in the world i can be myself
! here's my life! i cant be very stubborn coz my parents are having technicall difficulties and i also care about them!
so, the thing is how do i tell them that i want to live here in a hostel or something (dosent matter, i want to stay here!) plz help!!!!

Answer 1

Try to get your self esteem up. I read another question you posted asking "why my friends hate me". In this question you say that you love where you currently are.



One thing is for sure. Nothing is forever. Take life one day at a time. You love your parents, as you said. Try to learn to love yourself. Life is a learning process. You learn day by day, you grow day by day, you expand day by day.



I've visited India. One comment that I'd like to make is.. Even though people are, in general, more poor there, they are more happy.



Think, say, 10 years down the line. Say you go to India now. In 10 years or so, when you're ready to leave your parents, you'll have the experience of living in 2 cultures. That's an invaluable lesson in life.



Cheep up! Life is bright! Make it bright!

Answer 2

Try for emancipation if you are 16yrs and older and can prove you have the ability to support yourself. OR start writing for scholarships to universities in the area you want to live - so you afford to stay in the dorms and visit your parents during vacation time.



If you are 18 yrs or older - get out of the house get yourself your own place and get a job like all of us adults do... Then send money to your parents in India to help them out.



Otherwise, if a good heart to heart talk about not moving back to India didn't work, then you have to make the best of it. Don't consider running away. Don't consider any type of selfish act, your parents are your ONLY defense from the outside world and without them you can be very easily lost.



Think about this:



Perhaps the best thing you love about Canada is that your parents are there. Maybe you'll like India because you will still be with your parents who love you. India still has opportunities - use your mind. Write for scholarships. Get off your butt and do something constructive to further your goals.

Answer 3

If you are a minor (sounds like you are), you don't have too much choice if your parents want you to go with them. You could try persuading them by first finding out if there is someone they could trust that you could live with there in Canada. Do you have a job or some means of supporting yourself? Are you receiving a superior education where you are now? Try to anticipate their concerns and objections and have an answer ready. At least that way you would have some kind of a comprehensive plan to plead your case. Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm guessing you're under 18. I can't imagine that your parents will let you stay unless it's with relatives or very close friends. You might consider reaching a compromise with your parents. For example, agree to go back until you have earned enough money to attend college or live on your own....or agree to attend college in India and move back after graduation.

Answer 5

All you can do is be straight forward with them. Hopefully they will understand. Remember, it is your life. Explain to them how much happier you are here. Don't rebel or give them threats. Show them you can be a responsible adult and make your own decisions and maybe they will respect that.

Answer 6

first it would depend on how old you are? if you of age, then i would suggest you be open and honest with your parents and express your concern with moving. explain to them why. they are you parents, they deserve to know your feelings on things just as you need to know there's. i don't know your personal situation, but i can tell you most parents do what is in the best intrest of their children and would never do anything that would hurt them intentionally

Answer 7

Hun your best bet is to let them know not only that you want to go, but that you reasoning to validate this want. take your tie and let them know exactly what you're feeling and why. Think of it as a book report of your life so far... Good Luck!

Answer 8

Well, sit down and tell them how u feel about going back there. If u dont want to go there tell them. If u just wanna go there and visit then tell them. Just tell them how u feel.

Answer 9

its hard.... find urself a job and tell them ur life will be better here than in india... and askthem to stay with you coz u r determind to staying ....

dont be afraid just do it ....

asnd u can never know whatsthe world is conspiring against you .. so think well

Answer 10

Be honest and up front with them and explain yourself better than you did in that paragraph. If you have problems experssing yourself through speech try writing them a letter

Answer 11

DON'T LET THEM TAKE YOU ALIVE!!!!!!!!!!!



No seriously you should respect their wishes but if you want to stay you should tell them cause it could change the outcome for the better or maybe they will let you stay and they go back or maybe you will have to go back but not regret it if you just say something so SAY SOMETHING!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

A lot depends on your age. Become self responsible fast.

Answer 13

talk to your parents and see if they could do what you want or if your older than 18 move out and stay there.

Answer 14

Not sure how old you are but You need to explain to them your wishes.

Answer 15

I dont know

Answer 16

Just tell them what u want!!!ask there openion!!!

Answer 17

try 2 tell them that u luv it there or something? im srry that its not much.-^_^-

Answer 18

just be honest

Answer 19

i reckon u should just tell it to them straight....................hopefully they would understand....... if they dont......sorry mate......ur screwed